Traveling Together Without Losing Your Mind (or Marriage)

 Traveling Together Without Losing Your Mind (or Marriage) 

Traveling with your partner can be one of the best (or most stressful) experiences you share. In this episode of TravelEssary, we’re diving into the real-life challenges of traveling as a couple (without losing your mind or your marriage).

We share honest stories from the road and practical tips for staying connected while managing the chaos, like dealing with parking drama, balancing downtime and adventure, setting expectations, and working within a budget.

Whether you’re planning a weekend getaway or full-time RV living, this episode will help you travel better together... with more laughter, patience, and grace.

🎙️ Listen in for:

• Tips for handling travel stress as a couple
• How to divide responsibilities without resentment
• Ways to communicate (and cool off) when things get tense
• Building teamwork and connection on the road

Transcript

  We are the Essary family and we're exploring America one destination at a time. On today's episode of TravelEssary, we're going to get down and dirty and share some open honesty and talk about traveling together without losing your mind or your marriage. Let's chat.

Welcome and thank you for joining us on this topic of how not to lose your mind or your marriage, because I'm not gonna lie, it can happen. I've never heard of anyone getting divorced on vacation, but maybe not divorced on vacation, but because of vacation.

Because of vacation. Yeah. So there are definitely some stressors that are put on you during vacation that, can test your mental boundaries and your relationship boundaries. So today we're gonna talk about the unfiltered truth about navigating life, love and luggage. Let's get into it. So we have unique perspective of traveling together vacation wise and now traveling together full, full-time. Yes. And I must say the concepts for one works with the other. It's the same. I mean, yeah, . I didn't know we were going this deep. Um, yeah, I mean it's, I didn't either, we're just talking.

It's pretty close to, you know, , the things that we use in our everyday life we use on vacation to make us better as a couple. Because I mean, we have definitely gone through some patches, either on vacation or in life that , the only way we overcame it was together. I think like one of our biggest like arguments in the past.

Five years was on vacation, and it wasn't even an argument. It was more of a, we were both just incredibly angry at each other, and it did happen on a vacation. Do you remember that? I do not. When we first got to Hilton Head, South Carolina. Oh goodness. Now you remember? Yes. Oh, that has been five years ago.

Okay. Oh my goodness. And it was one of those things that, I mean, it was totally my fault, but it is what it is.

Um, I asked for it. Yeah, because you remember like, I was like, no, I don't want to know where we're going. I don't even wanna know what we're doing. Yeah. So that was one of the things that Jeremy did on the entire trip. We took a 10, 12 day trip and it was mostly a road trip. We spent, a good five days or so in Hilton Head, South Carolina.

And the other times we were just road tripping and the surprise was that the kids weren't gonna know where we were going from day to day. We ended our trip like at Disney World. That was a big surprise. Um, but Jeremy said he didn't wanna know either. Literally he just wanted to know the mileage in between each destination.

Backup to like the whole planning session of this was I didn't care where we went. I just wanted to go somewhere new. And so she just kept throwing things out. She was like, Niagara Falls, what if we go over here? What if we go north? What, what about California? And I was like, you know what?

You just pick a place. I'll drive you, tell me which direction to go and let's just go. And so she picked this really weird way of getting to Hilton Head because she was, because we were road tripping. We were road tripping. And she wanted to keep us just on our edge of the sea, like, oh, we gonna turn north, we turning south, we going to Florida, we going to Niagara Falls.

We are, we doing? And so , we got to the place, uh, not even the place we were staying at, but a beach. And she's like, Hey, we're gonna watch an air show. And I'm like, okay, hey, where do we need to go park? And she didn't know that. And so, okay, wait, kind of I'm gonna tell you guys the real story. No, that's the real story. Okay. So yes, he did not know where we were going.

And then that morning of that day, when we were going to watch the air show on the beach, because it was 4th of July. I said, Hey, look, I know you don't wanna know any of this, but I need to tell you how today's gonna go. I said, I need to tell you because this is part of that traveling together that we're gonna talk about.

Um, I think most of our arguments on vacation stem from the GP. Or parking. Oh yeah. Because you have like this level of expectations that here. Mm-hmm. And technology is over here, and I'm the one using technology, and so it's like somehow my fault. Yep. And so I said, look, in the past you have gotten really mad at me because we have gotten somewhere.

, And you're like, where do I park? And I'm like, I don't know. And you're like, you didn't do that research? And I'm like, no, I, I've never been here before. I don't know. Like I couldn't find any information. And so I didn't want that to be the case this time. And so I said, Hey, look, this is where we're going.

I'm just gonna warn you ahead of time, I know the general area, but I have no idea where to park or where we're going once we get there. Like, I know this gives us beach access, but I don't know where we're going on the beach. I don't know where to park. I don't know what parking looks like.

Like, I have no idea. This is all new for me. He's like, okay, well, we'll figure it out. Well, it went exactly as you expected. And to the point where, you know, he was like, where do I go next? And I'm like, I don't know. And we're already there. And I was like, this is why I tried telling you this morning. And it just escalated from there.

And by the time we got to our spot on the beach, we were both just so mad at each other. Well, and I think we were hangry because we just picked up food. And so we were gonna go have a picnic on the beach and, and we had been in the car for like three days. Yeah. , This is the reason we have conversations like this.

, So that you out there can learn from our low points, our struggles. Yeah. , And another thing that we tend to do, not so much anymore, but when we first started traveling with GPS, because before we just had MapQuest, and I feel like it was easier sometimes that way, like it has its pros and cons, but there were times where a good year, year and a half that you would do this to me is I would be trying to get the GPS to pull up and you're already pulling out the parking lot onto the highway and you're like, where am I going? And I'm, where am I going? I'm like, I literally have no idea. The GPS is still calculating.

He's like, do I turn left? Do I turn right? Where do I go north, south threes? I'm like, I don't know. I don't know this area any more than you. And the GPS is saying nothing. And so. We, I started doing this thing where if he started moving while we were in the parking lot, I would start yelling at him. If you leave the parking lot before GPS works, do not get mad at me.

Yeah. So needless to say, we have learned from this, and no matter where we go now. I look at parking. Yes. So after that fiasco, whenever I planned the state fair trip, Jeremy did the parking part of that. I did the, like, what are we gonna do, uh, the financial part of it?

When are we gonna make it work? And then , he did the research on where we parking and how do we get from destination. Parking lot to the front gates, like stuff like that. And that works really well for us for him to do the parking aspect because I'm usually planning literally everything else, which I enjoy.

I enjoy planning. And Jeremy not so much , I don't even think about parking because I'm not the one driving. The only time I think about parking is if I specifically see something on a website that says like $15 for parking. And, and then I'm like, oh my God, we have to pay $15 for parking. But that's the only time I ever think about parking.

Yes. But , even if we have to pay for parking, I'm still looking at, okay, if we park here, you know, especially for the state fair or, uh, we went to the balloon festival is like, okay, so how do we get from our parking spot? To the gate because I mean, sometimes it can be very confusing depending on where you park.

And sometimes GPS fails you or it takes a while for it to load up and everyone's just kind of antsy and ready to get going. You know, your strengths and strong points, you know, , your trigger points.

And if you know what those are and you're getting ready , to do vacation, plan those out. Yeah. Because if you don't plan those out, , you're gonna trigger yourself. Trigger yourself. You're gonna trigger yourself because you know what the trigger is like for me, it's parking, not necessarily driving. I do want to know how to get there just in case anything does go crazy.

But you never know what streets they're gonna have closed down or whatever. Yes. Which is something we face a lot. A lot. , One of my things is where are we parking? , Even this last one that we went to, the, the, the, the Depot Day. Yeah. The Depot Day.

Exactly.. I looked it up and I was like, oh yeah, it's here and it's on this street, , and immediately, once I figured out where it was, what streets they had, you know, marked off or whatever, I immediately went to Google Maps and was like, where can I park and see? I'm the kind of person that I wanna get to the general area and then figured out when I get there.

So it works great that Jeremy. Needs to know that aspect of it and he can take care of that. And so in our travel, we have learned, okay, Jeremy takes care of that part and then I'll take care of the other part. And that works really well for us. Yes. , One of my biggest things is stay away from your weakness on travel.

Or in life in general? Well, mine is finding parking because , it's definitely a weakness of mine, but mostly because I just never even think of it. Yeah. Like I'm not, to be fair, most of the time you're the one driving somewhere when we're going to special events like this. And so you're the one doing the parking, so I don't have to think of that park.

Right. And you've already like Prepurchase tickets and I'm like, ah, we'll get 'em at the gate because it's like. You know, they're definitely gonna be selling at the gate. There's no reason that No. And I, but I'm person that, that something that I'm gonna purchase 'em in advance. Yeah. And you're gonna purchase them in advance.

Mm-hmm. And so that's your strong point. That's not necessarily mine. And so we just lean on each other's strong points. Now, are there gaps in between strong points? Depending on what the couple or, uh, the situation may be. Absolutely. What do you mean by gaps? As far as, uh, we'll take the state fair, for example.

So. You got the tickets, we got in, but then you had to purchase the coupons or the coupons. Coupons at the, at a kiosk. Mm-hmm. And it was like, how many do we need? What are we gonna, I have no idea. We had no idea. And so it was one of those things that it's not really our fault. The website doesn't give you prices of stuff.

And so it just kind of fell to us like trying to like fill that out and figure that part out where, I mean, we could have been like, you know. We got however many that we wanted. I think we ended up getting like 50 or something, like right at the very beginning. Mm-hmm. And we went to go eat. And it could have been like, well this one's 23 and this one's 32, and now who's gonna go get more coupons?

Mm-hmm. You know, and it could have escalated into something worse, but it was like, okay, hey, you get this, I'm gonna go get some more. We'll order the food, we'll move on to the next one. And so don't let the gaps. Stress you out. Yeah. And finger pointing is the worst thing. Oh my goodness. The worst that you can do.

Because in that situation, it wasn't either of our fault about the coupons , there's no information on pricing when it come to the food or the activities or anything like that until you got. Into the state fair. And I know why they do that. It's 'cause it's so expensive. If you know how expensive it is, you're not gonna come.

But we had no idea in the beginning how much we would need. But if you're sitting there saying, well why didn't you plan this out? Why didn't you know this? , It's a sure fire way to make the rest of your day. A terrible trip. Well, and then there's a lot of places that don't put out good information.

Mm-hmm. As far as activities and things that are happening and costs when you're there. Yeah. So, like, um, Scarborough Affair, you know, you go there, you don't know when any of the shows are happening. No, it's, it's not on any of their websites. They don't, they don't even give you information, give a little pamphlet or anything when you walk in.

You have to go to each place where the shows are and see what their times say to see, see what their times are. Yeah. And then you have to kind of schedule your day as far as that goes. Mm-hmm. , 'Cause I like that, . I already knew going to the state fair, there were certain events that I wanted to go to and this is the times that it was gonna happen.

Right? Like we already knew that and so we filled in our times with whatever we wanted to do outside of that. And so there's going to be gaps inside your vacation. And well, yeah, you can't finger point, you know, more often than not it's gonna be a new experience for both you and your spouse, right? And so you're not gonna know every detail there is to know about that situation.

So definitely have to give each other grace in that , discover it together, like it gives a little bit of mystery for your vacation.

Another thing that I think a lot of couples struggle with when they're traveling is that we all have different perspectives of life in general, but of like how to do things, when to do things. And it's not necessarily that one is right and one is wrong, it's just that you're viewing them so very differently.

, There's just different aspects you have different, , things that you want to do at a certain time that. May not always work out on vacation. Yeah, I think , we just view things so very differently.

I mean, men and women in general tend to view things differently, but even from human to human. So I may be interested in one thing and you may be interested in another, and somewhere we have to meet in the middle to make that a good time for both of us. And not only that, but we have to make sure our children are enjoying that trip as well.

So finding a balance of. Bringing in everyone's perspectives and everyone's viewpoints is super important because if not, you're gonna have a spouse that. Loads the vacation that you're on, and they're gonna bring their attitude and their moods and they're uninterested and it's not going to be fun. And I think if you're taking a family or couple trip, that it should be oriented to where everyone is going to enjoy themselves and not specifically for one person.

Oh yeah. You have to manage your expectations. Don't try to do too much. Create a flexible itinerary. Oh my gosh. Yeah. My next point was literally communicate your expectations. Yes. Because you're not gonna see every single thing that you want to see, especially if there's a couple, or there's a, a family because everyone wants to see different things.

Yeah. So just manager expectations and, , I don't wanna say go with the flow because , I believe there are certain things that you need to do on vacation mm-hmm. In order to really enjoy vacation, but. You gotta take everyone else into consideration, not just yourself.

And I think that you know, even with different viewpoints and different expectations, you need to have a common goal with your vacation. What is it that you're wanting to get out of this vacation? And that's a great way to start when it comes to planning. Like if you are going into this vacation, whether it's a family couple, whatever, and rest is your goal, then you need to make sure that that vacation is geared.

Towards rest. If adventure is your goal, then, you know, plan for adventures. But you need to make sure that goal is a common goal. Because if one is wanting to go in for adventure and one is wanting to go in for rest and you're still wanting to spend time together on this trip, uh, you're gonna have a hard time meeting those expectations.

I mean, there's so many different stories , and even times , that we have done it where. You know, one wants to be adventurous and go on a hike and go check this out, and the other person's like, I just wanna take the evening and not do anything. And just sit and binge watch tv because it's something that hardly ever gets to happen.

No, we don't really come across that , we tend to. Be pretty in sync when it comes to activities and rest. But we do have some friends actually who visited Orlando not that long ago, and the wife was out with, I think her mom or sister or something, and they were. Going to Disney World, they were going shopping, they were exploring, they were doing all the things.

And the husband stayed between the hotel to the restaurants. So he would go to restaurants and stuff by himself, but he literally just went back and forth between hotels and restaurants. He didn't do anything else on the trip because he didn't , even whenever they went into,, uh, magic Kingdom.

Mm-hmm. And. He said he went, he sat on a bench and the first bench that he found, like that's where he sat for the entire time, while his wife and , whatever family member that she was with, went off and did their thing and he just kind of, people watched and that's all he did. No, I could not.

And I'm like, you went to Magic Kingdom. You paid all that money to sit on a bench and you sat on a bench. You could do that at any mall that you want to, or outside, you know, anywhere at any kind of park, but you chose to go anyways. So I mean, if you don't have the expectation of spending time together on vacation, then I guess that could work.

But I mean, most people want to be with their family and who they're traveling with, or if you're going to have. Separation time. Ladies want to go to the spa, get their hair, did you know all the other kind of stuff. Maybe the guys wanna go watch a game, guys wanna go watch a game or go play golf. That's one of the big things.

They wanna go play golf 'cause , they're gonna be at a place if they've never done before or go fishing, you know? Then do that separation time. At the same time. At the same time, not the entire time. Well also to the point like, Hey, I'm gonna go fishing in the morning. I'll be back in the evening.

And then the wife's like, well, in the evening I'm gonna go to the spa. And it's like, no, do both those things at the same time. I do think like in general, women tend to go towards more activity and movement. Like, I wanna go shopping, I wanna go explore, I wanna go do this. And men are like, what can I do that involves me sitting down?

Like even, yeah, like we are not like that. I love my rest time just as much as you do, but you also enjoy activities just as much as I do. So I feel like we've been very blessed in that aspect of, well, we, we get tired at the same time. We, we had to find that balance. Yeah, because if you remember back whenever, uh, Justin was super, super young and we were going to family reunions and everything, our time was not in sync at all.

No. That's all just 'cause you literally only played games all the time. Yeah. I was playing games, I was going out on the boat one fishing, and I had a baby to take care of, and so and so, it was, it was definitely one of those things where we almost lost our minds. Or our marriage. Or our marriage on a couple of vacations because it was, well, yeah.

S. Plenty of years, two or three years in a row where we went to a family reunion. And, um, we didn't spend pretty much any time together that whole time, , you know, we just talked about , the hidden benefits of family travel. I think if you're gonna go on vacation together, you should be spending as much of that time together as possible.

And the only way to do that is to have a unified goal, , as long as you're both compromising and it can, it can work out real easily. Yeah, and I understand that, you know, people always want to go, go, go on vacation, and yes, I think you should stay active and healthy on vacation, but vacation is also one of those things for you to reset.

Mm-hmm. To be adventurous when you be adventurous, but to get relaxation when you need re relaxation. So , there's a balance in there. Well, and there's a good reason for that is because when people are hungry or fatigued, their moods change. Oh my goodness. So much so off topic. But those snicker commercials, they're so accurate.

So accurate. And I mean, you know, come on, people. Look at yourself, look at your friends and your families around you. You know those people that are like. Yo, , they're angry only because they don't have food. I think yours is more hunger and mine is more of the fatigue. Oh, mine is definitely hunger.

Yeah. Well, I think , that's a good reason to stop and take a moment and just enjoy a good meal or stop and take a good rest somewhere when you're on your vacation, and to remember to be gracious with one another during those circumstances. Be mindful that, okay. They're just hungry or they're just tired and , we need to fix that as, yeah, as soon as possible.

You know, look at the situation like, oh, well wait a minute. We haven't eight since six o'clock this morning, and it's three o'clock in the afternoon. I bet they're hungry. Yeah. If you're taking a young child, you know, 6, 7, 8 to a theme park, and you are going from event to ride to show. You know, all day long.

And by fireworks, they're crabby. Um, they're probably tired. Yeah. That're probably take that poor kid home. , You don't really think about it whenever , you're at those destinations mm-hmm. Where you're at the theme parks and stuff of hydration. Oh, that's which hydration So True.

Brings in fatigue. Which brings in mood swings. Yes. And so , it's definitely something. It's so true. We have been very mindful , of going. Okay. Hey, we're here. Almost the first thing that we do besides kind of plan out how we're gonna walk around the park, but where do we get something to drink?

Yeah. And you know, not all places, um, theme parks, any kind of touristy places, not all of them have, where it's like so easily accessible to find drinks. Mm-hmm. And a lot of the times. It's crazy expensive. Yeah. But it doesn't matter. You have to stay hydrated. That is one of the most important things that Jeremy talks about all the time.

Hydration. It, it can make you really crabby. It can, can make you sick, can run the whole vacation, but just be gracious with one another when it comes to, you know, extreme circumstances like hunger or fatigue. Yeah. Stay in the moment. You know, focus on the journey and the adventure that you're having and remove the other obstacles.

And this is big, and this is something that took me quite some time and my last job was very wonderful in this situation. Mm-hmm. My previous job before that, not so much. Disconnect from work. Yeah. A lot of people have a hard time disconnecting, which for me, disconnection is like the biggest perk of vacation.

, Just disconnecting from everything that's back home now. We talk about in a podcast of, you know, how to be safe while you're traveling, you know, stay in contact with people, all that kind of stuff. But if you're not taking a work vacation. Like if you're not going to a conference or something like that where you're gonna be doing some work during the day, but you're going on a true vacation, go on a true vacation.

Yeah. Don't take your work with, you. Don't, yeah, don't check emails , it's really hard because you're like, , but this employee is calling me for a certain situation. Or, you know, , I'm trying to close this deal and this customer is calling me. Do some pre-work before vacation.

Do you remember our first Oh yeah. Trip to Disney World? Oh yeah. And three times a day or more, your job was calling you, this was your previous job, the one you had before your last one, and they were calling you nonstop to the point I was getting so incredibly agitated and I was like, stop answering the phone.

You're not getting paid. To answer that phone. Stop answering it. We are on vacation. We are at Disney World. We have our children here. Like yeah, I was getting so frustrated. No, I guarantee you I probably worked three hours every single day. Yes. On vacation. Yes. You are constantly like we would be in a show or something, you'd get up and walk away, or we'd be doing something and we're sitting down for a meal and , you'd be on a phone call and I'm like, we're here.

We're over here. Like, tell them to stop calling you. Yeah. So , do some preparing at work. Finish as much as you can before leaving. I know that some of you, , you're the only one that you know can fulfill certain projects and they're gonna be, you know, they're gonna be piled up whenever you get back.

I know that happens. It happened with me. All the time, but let your coworkers know how to answer the phone calls. Set your emails to, I'm out of the office. And, you know, just let it go. It's gonna be there whenever you get back, but don't stress about it while you're on vacation.

Yeah. 'cause. That will affect , the personal time that you can have with whoever you're going on vacation with. I do feel like that's another topic of arguments when it comes to couples. Oh, big one on vacation is one of them. Like either not able to put their work away or work constantly bombarding or something like that.

Like I can see that as a point of contention. Yeah. I mean, you're going to a play, you're watching a movie and you get a text or a phone call and you gotta get up and leave. And now. You know, you're not in the moment with that person. After all that planning. We literally know people who have divorced because one person in that relationship put their work above their marriage.

And I feel like if it's come to the point where you can't even do it on vacation, you can't even put it aside on vacation, then that's definitely a problem. Yeah. So I mean, I know that it's hard for a lot of people, we have family members , that do this. It. They can't. They can't shut it off.

They can't shut it off. Mm-hmm. They're working all the time. Yeah. My motto is, I work to live, not live to work. So yeah. My other motto was. I'm only working whenever I get paid. Whenever. Although the time, I'm not even, I don't even worry. I don't even think about it. Yeah. Like there was many times that I would have conversations with coworkers outside of work and they're like, Hey,

where are we at with this? And I'm like, I don't know. I can tell you when I get back to the office. Yeah. Because, I just didn't wanna about it. I'm not a work time. Yeah. I didn't wanna think about it. I don't want my life to just be about the work that I do. Right. . I know for us it's caused a lot of heartache and a lot of conversations.

And a lot of frustrations. Mm-hmm. At times, whenever we should have been fully enjoying where we were. Right. I think another big argument, , I don't know if this has ever been a big point for us, but Oh man, I have heard some other couples get into this, is if there is not a set budget planned Oh, seriously, for vacation.

That can be a huge point of contention. So this was definitely us before children and everything else, but you were the big spender. , Oh, I was. I was the saver. I was one of those that I'm going on vacation. It doesn't matter what I wanna do or how much it's gonna cost, that's what I'm doing.

. And then you get back after vacation and you go, where's all the money? In the bank account? Yeah. Well you spent it all on vacation and , now you're stressing for money. Yeah. You definitely used to be the kind of person that you wanted all of the like souvenirs and stuff. Whereas I just, I'm not, this is gonna sound terrible, I'm not an extremely sentimental person, and you are a very sentimental person.

And so I didn't care about souvenirs or anything like that, and you were like all the things. Well, and I looked at vacation like, Hey, vacation is to do whatever you want to do. Yeah, whatever that you want to go eat at the most expensive restaurant, then you go, oh, you can't, because you still have bills to pay after vacation because you still bills to pay.

So, I mean, , that's the whole thing of pre pre-booking and pre-planning that that is easy to do. Yeah. Well, I mean, we know couples where the woman thinks that they're on vacation, and that means she can just go on a shopping spree and rack up their credit card. And then the husband's trying to figure out a way to how to pay for it when they get back.

Like, how do I pay off this credit card? Because my wife went and spent $6,000 on our Disney World trip and bought the kids everything they wanted while we were there, which we know is not cheap. So. Definitely we have heard some major arguments when it comes to budgeting on vacation, , I know a lot of people that, together, , they put so much back out of every paycheck and when it gets to a certain point, or if they want to go on vacation, that's their money.

Mm-hmm. So all their bills, everything's taken care of by other means. This is like their vacation money in a savings account that they put away and like, Hey, whatever we have here, that's what we can spend. So if we wanna go to, you know, the Florida Keys. We know it's gonna cost X amount of money. Whenever that gets up to there, then we can go.

Yeah. Or if we wanna go to the next town and just stay in the hotel over the weekend, that's what that money is for. Right? Not, , Hey, I'm gonna surprise you with a vacation and I'm taking. All the paychecks for the last three months so we can go on vacation. I'm emptying our savings account.

Yeah. Don't be vacation poor. Oh my goodness. Yes. I cannot stress that enough. It boggles my mind when people talk about opening credit cards and spending $20,000 in seven days at Disney World, and I'm like, but how and why and why? , That is one thing that I do not understand. I do not understand opening credit cards for vacation. I don't get it. I mean, , okay, we have, when we've talked about this before, a single credit card that we use and then pay off at the end of the month.

And those rewards we use for vacation. But we are not opening one to simply pay for a vacation. Like I have heard people that were like, oh, I had such a hard time making them mortgage last month, but next month I'm taking my family on a cruise. Yeah. And you're like, wait, what? You're like, oh, I'm just, I'm gonna paid off on my credit card.

It's fine. And I'm like, okay, that doesn't make sense. Yeah, it's only 15,000. We're fine. It's like, oh my goodness. Like what? Well, that's a couple of months worth of mortgages right there. Yeah. That's just, and so don't be vacation poor. Don't be vacation. Poor money. Actually. Money and like finances is the number one.

Reason for divorce. Reason for divorce, yeah. So have that communication, pre-plan it out, talk about what you can spend, what you don't wanna spend, where you want to go, and don't just blow and go. Yeah. I think the two biggest takeaways from today's topic would be communication. Communication and grace. Yes.

And the only other thing that I would add to that is stay away from your stressors. Yeah, that's a good point. You know what stresses you out. Yeah. If you don't like large crowds, stay away. Stay away. Yeah. If you don't like to go hiking, don't. Yeah. Don't stress yourself out in order to please someone else, y'all need to come to a mutual compromise somewhere.

That I feel that's where both parties are happy with the communication of your expectations and stuff come into play. Absolutely. Absolutely. So can you travel together without losing your mind? No. And your marriage, you will lose your mind at some point in time. Because you'll set expectations so high, you'll think that everything is gonna fly like butterflies and rainbows and a flood's gonna happen.

So, well, I do think that is , another thing that happens on vacation is people set. Expectation so high and they expect everything to be perfect because it's vacation. Yeah, it's vacation. And then when something goes wrong, they just don't handle it very well. But be mindful communication.

Yeah. Stay away from the stressors. You can do this guys. You can travel together, you can do it and not lose your mind and keep your marriage intact. We are full-time traveling together now.  📍 Uh, we haven't killed each other yet. Not yet. Still going pretty strong. Maybe in a year of full-time traveling, we'll have a different perspective of this podcast, but today, this is where we stand and I think that we have made some really good points.

And if you. Keep what we have said in mind, then yeah, you can have a great vacation. Even with your partner. Even with your partner.