Dealing with Disappointments on Vacation

Dealing with Disappointments on Vacation

Jeremy has been wanting to do this episode for a while! We hope it encourages you in all of your traveling endeavors! How do you handle disappointments on vacation?

Transcript

We're the SRE family and we're exploring America one destination at a time on this episode of travel Esery we are going to discuss how to deal with disappointment on vacation. Let's chat.  

Welcome and thank you for joining us on this episode. This is going to be a fun, exciting episode. That I think a lot of people have a hard time with, I love how you just said. This episode that we're going to be talking about disappointment. I know that people have a hard time with is going to be a fun and exciting episode.  Because  I hope this episode opens up people's eyes. I hope it kind of  changes their mindset on vacation and what that entails and , what they picture that. Being from one extreme and just kind of bringing it down to where.  You could enjoy vacations so much more. It's definitely a mindset that we have changed throughout the years. We had to, because I was one of those people that as soon as something did not go the way that it was planned. It was over. 

Oh my gosh. That's so true. Nothing would have changed my mind. Nothing could have happened afterwards that would've put me in a good mood or put me on the right track. Like I immediately went off the hinges of going, this is the worst trip ever. Babe. Okay. So we're not having hot dogs. What does that matter? 

We play it on hot dog squad. Why are we not having hot dogs? And the rest of the trip is over. That's like your military coming out.  Thank you. You have to have like, um, like the plan and the structure. And if the structure doesn't happen, then it's like, well, That's just not, that's just not acceptable. And it's something that , I've had to work on extremely  just to make it where. 

Can I enjoy it. Or enjoyable now. Yeah. No. I mean, I'm even talking about whenever I was young. Like, Hey, where are we going? Oh, well, we're going to go to this park instead of going over there. Well, everything was going to that park. Now my whole mindset has changed. The whole plan has changed. I've got to re set myself. 

I gotta get my mind back into the right spot and this, because I went with such.  

I don't, I don't want to say expectations, but I went with such a game plan, like a rigid mindset, a rigid mindset and whatever that changed. Everything was just thrown off. Everything was off cultured and I didn't know how to cope with getting back to. Normalcy are going it's okay. It's not that big of a deal. Sometimes it was a big deal, but it's not that big of a big deal that it is going to ruin the rest of your vacation. So, this is such an interesting approach to this topic. 

I actually didn't know. You're gonna, you're gonna start with that. So, um, Before we get into the rest of it. I don't even know if this is like in your notes or not, because this is a mostly Jeremy bod guest today. , I'm curious as to.  How you changed your mindset? Because there are so many people out there like that, 

they're very like, , OCD about following a rigid plan set. 

So , how were you able to go about changing that mindset? . What happened? , what changed? , I think I came to a point. Where a self-reflected.  Where something blew up. Something happened that something changed. And I got irate about it. And. I can't say for sure that.  Either. You know, it dawned on me. 

. The light bulb finally went off and it dawned on me that I was  being. , uttered. I was being someone that no one liked to be around, whatever that happened. Or if it was someone that I respected. That was just like,  Dude really look at this. And then it finally triggered at me. I'm going.  Oh, my gosh.  I got upset because we're not having hot dogs. , and I know that's an extreme, but it's just one of those things that happened in my mindset where I was like, oh my goodness.  This, this isn't the end of the trip. 

Like we still have six hours at this place or we're still spinning a week or we're still traveling somewhere.  And just because something goes wrong. , that's not life affecting.  

It's not that big of a deal. It's nothing that can't be.  That plans can change that you can still have a good time. How long ago would you say this mindset came about? The mindset change.   It was probably our first family reunion. Right after Justin was born. Because that camping trip was. Miserable miserable. We talked about on our least favorite. , Traveling experiences or something like that. And he talks about that episode. Yeah. That was a miserable week. And although. Some of the things that we're going to be talking about happened on that vacation. It's happened at other vacations as well in a dozen. Affect me like it did back then. 

Now it's still affects me a little bit because I might have.  Big expectations or high hopes for doing something it's like, oh man, I really want to do that. And now I can't now. I feel really disappointed. Yeah. I mean, it's totally okay to be disappointed. It's how you handle that. How you handle it. And that's some of the things that we're going to be talking about is definitely going to get into. You know, mentally. Physically emotionally, how do you handle things? 

Whatever it doesn't go the way that you want it to go. Whenever you have disappointments on vacation that are either in your control or out of your control and a lot of things that happen. Especially on vacation now. Normal day-to-day stuff. It happens as well, but especially on vacations.  A lot of things that are disappointing are out of your control. Right. 

And I think one of the reasons it can be so much harder to deal with on vacation for people than your normal day to day routines is because you just probably spent a lot of money by your family to have. Really great time. And then you're afraid that you've just wasted all of that time and money and effort.  And can, you know,  I guess that's why it's like the love of money is the root of all evil. 

Because if you're more concerned about the money that you spent instead of the, the time that your family is having together, then yeah, you could absolutely just like blow up over every little thing that goes wrong and you have to add the stress on top of it. So that first time that we went, whenever it finally dawned on me, I've been on other vacations and blew up and did not have a good time. 

But on that one specifically, We have to get it. All of our dirty laundry.  It's important. I think it's important for people to understand. That you can go from one extreme and then be like, you know what? And mellow out. And have way better time than you ever could have. If you stayed in that mindset. Right. And so the extra stress that we had of getting all the clothes we had a one month. We had a pop-up how are we going to get it there? 

How are we going to transport all our stuff? And then.  

The way that the vacation went with everything that happened. It was like,  All that just kind of snowballed together. And I was still physically weak from giving birth. Like we went with a one month old baby. So.  And we were new parents. New parents. , we were trying to, I don't want to say. I live with the Joneses. But we were trying to.  We're trying to pay your pitcher. 

Like everything is perfectly fine. Whatever thing wasn't perfectly fine. It was a horrible trip.  We still had a, we still had a good time. You can have a horrible trip and still have a good time. And we were just totally out of our element.  And it was just one of those things where nothing really went right.  

But it's none of us died. And none of us got sick. None of us. You know, it's such a one.  Of us now, because in December we went on a trip where almost nothing went as planned, but we had a fantastic, fantastic time. But it was one of those of going.  You know, something came up and if I would have started by the very first thing.  You're going to deal with disappointments. 

One of the first things that are out of your control, that depending on what your activity is, but if you have an activity outside, it's going to be dependent on weather.  Yeah, that's so true. And we just released a podcast two weeks ago about traveling with the weather. Um, it's good information to know it can kind of help avoid. Some of those downfalls and pitfalls and disappointments when on vacation, but sometimes it's just absolutely unavoidable.  And you plan vacations, especially if you're like us, you plan vacations months in advance. And you've already kind of either you look through the farmer's Almanac to kind of figure out what that weather is going to look like down there. I still do that. Yes, they still talk about it. 

They still like the weatherman still go by it. Even today. I just checked Google. And so.  , you try to check the weather as much as possible to figure out, Hey, what's going on over here. And we went to New Mexico and we went to what was that city that we went to. Carlsbad. Was that the city.  

Kevin's okay. I thought that was just the name of the game. So we went to Carlsbad and we, we specifically went there for one advent. That we were going to do. They have a really cool.  Christmas parade , on the Pakos on the PECO. So you get on a boat. You go down the river and you see all these Christmas lights. And you have hot chocolate and you listen to Christmas music and it's like an hour long tour or so. 

And so we'd be like pumped up. We were ready for this and we're at Carlsbad caverns and we're going through everything and we're having a great and wonderful time there. We get into cell service and Misty's phone things. And it says your tour has been canceled, canceled. To extreme weather. And we're looking around going. Wait a minute. 

It's clear and sunny there. There's no storms insight. What, whether they talking about, and it was a wind advisory that they were not comfortable putting the boats on the water because the wind would blow them around and no one would have a good time. And it's a good thing because later that day, the wind picked up. Well insane. 

I don't think I've ever been through winds that strong before. And I think we would have had a hard time going on it because Ariel has, she has a breathing. Breathing issues and that wind would have compounded. She went ahead a good time, which means you want to have a good time. Which means none of us would have had a good time.  So that cancellation because of the weather happened. And, and that was the entire reason we went down there and entire reason . 

We didn't go specifically for Carlsbad caverns. We went there anyways, but we went specifically for that because we just wanted to go see it. Yeah. I purchased our boat tour tickets like two months in advance and we planned the whole trip around this boat tour. And then it gets canceled. Yeah. And for a lot of people that would have been the point, a lot of people would have been like, well, let's just pack up and head back to Texas. Or head back to wherever  our event is canceled. 

It's out of our control, then we'll just end it. But we end up having a great time that evening. Just driving around, looking at the other Christmas lights that they had around town. We went and got Starbucks. I mean, played Christmas music. It was really nice just to do that. Yeah.  Would we have loved to go on the boats. 

Absolutely. Yeah, but that, wasn't the end of the vacation. Just means we're going to have to replant it.  I don't have to go back.  And I will too. A little bit more pray in.  Whether we'll we'll work out for us, but other than that, look at  several nights in a row. And then canceled the nights we don't need.  It's just one of those things that, you know, the weather is out of your control, you plan everything like. We went to, uh, South Carolina. Oh, wait before you get on that. Um, and we'll probably talk about it more during this podcast, but there were so many things that did not go the way we planned on that Carlsbad trip. But we still had a really, really great time. 

We talked about it extensively. , on , one of our monthly bonus episodes on our Patrion, which I will have linked down in the show notes. But if you want to hear more detail about that trip of how we overcame one thing after the other and still like, it was still a really good time.  I'll have such fond memories of that trip and our kids like, still talk about it. 

So if you want to hear that, I will link that down in the show notes.  And another one, we went to South Carolina. We didn't know that a tropical storm was going to blow through.  Now it didn't really cancel anything. It did make the next day on the beach a little uncomfortable as they were still. You know, trying to clean up the mess and you saw some of the brewery that was washed up. But I mean, That didn't ruin our whole trip , but weather does play a massive role. In any event that you do outside. Like we went to a, uh, hot air balloon. And they were talking about not doing it. 

I know I was so nervous.  And it was like, okay, well maybe, maybe not. And then I think it was 20 minutes before.  I mean, all the balloons were there. They were getting ready to be blown up and then they released the weather balloon or whatever they were supposed to track and everything worked out and they were able to launch. I think the day before, because it was a whole weekend, like a three-day event the day before they had cancer canceled. 

They didn't, they didn't launch that day. Yeah. And then they were able to launch that morning because the wind kind of died down.  That was the whole reason we went that weekend was. Go see that.  Festival. And if they would have canceled that we still would have went to the balloon festival. We still would have looked at all the vendors that had a good time. And we would just have to pivot and find something else. 

I mean, I think we ended up not staying as long as we thought that we were going to stay. So we ended up going to.  Speaking of whether you got so sorry. 

That day,  

just whether it's just especially. I know I've said this several times, but if you do anything outside, whether it's just one of those things that you have to watch. And it could change your entire.  Vacation. Yeah, so true. 

And a lot of the weather issues could lead to cancellations.  Yep. And this is one of those things where not even outside, but even inside. Or if you're going to an amusement park and like six flags over Texas. And a thunderstorm comes up. Oh, they're gonna close it down. They're gonna shut down. There's nothing you can do about it. 

That's their policy. That's for safety reasons. But now six flags is closed for the next four to five hours. So , your whole day that you wanted to spend at six flags is now gone. Or if you wanted to go to a certain concert to see your favorite singer or your favorite band play, and someone gets sick or something happens and they cancel the show.  There's nothing you can do about it. It's just one of those things that's out of your control. 

That happens. And you can let it ruin your vacation.  Or you can turn it into something really positive.  And that's one of the main things that we have to understand as,  as human beings, as people have. Sometimes we go in with really high expectations. 

You know, are you going, you want to hear your favorite band or your favorite singer and they cancel on you. And that's the whole reason you went to wherever you're going. Either it's a day trip or you were going to make a weekend out of it. And that's going to be the highlight upon highlight. 

And now your expectations are. Alone.  

I know, I, I feel like it's okay to have high hopes or expectations. But not to be rigid or flexible in those expectations, like going to the beach. I absolutely expected lots of beach time. I did get some beach time, but not lots of each time because of the weather. But even with having those expectations and, you know, I only coming out 50 50 on it. 

I didn't let it.  Dictate my mood, I guess, or, or my attitude.   But I mean, Whenever you have expectations, or whenever you're told that this place is amazing, you can't forget this and you go in and going. Man, I can't wait to eat this amazing food. I can't wait to have this wonderful time and you go, and it's not what you dreamed of in your head. Sometimes.   For some people, if it doesn't meet that expectation. Then to them, they didn't have a good time by going there. I guess this is where we have different points of views and I'm sure it's different for every person. 

You know, everyone thinks differently.  My mindset is totally different than that. I have. Hi. Energy slash expectations about everything all the time.  Like, you know, I do, because you always make fun of me for it at the time. She's like, she's like, I think Donald's, this is super exciting. I'm like, it's, McDonald's why don't we. And I don't even like McDonald's.  

Where are we going? You know, cause she's usually she's already picked out the place that we're going. She's already. You know, done the Google research has looked at all the reviews and she's like, I'm usually more excited than anybody. Yes.  And there are several things that I get super excited about. 

Like, let's go, , let's do this. , but I don't go in with expectations, I guess I do. But even one of those expectations fall through. They just don't have a high effect on me. I really think it depends on the person. Right. And their personality maybe. Well, and you're one of those people that can handle that really well. 

Whereas yeah.  I handle it better now, but I'm also to the point of going, if I don't go in with high expectations.  Then it allows me to just soak everything in.  Like, okay. I'm not looking.  Looking at her. That's why you never get excited about anything. Like man, I'm planning all that stuff and he doesn't want to do any of it. 

Yeah. It's not that. I'm not looking forward to it because I am looking forward to it. It's just my expectations of going in or not going okay. Hey man, I cannot wait to see this and I can't wait to see that. And then if I don't get to see it, then it's like, Well, that was a kind of a letdown. Because my expectations were that high. But if I go in and going, man, I just can't wait to go watch the show. I don't care what the show has to offer for me. 

I just want to go watch it. And then you can, then I go in and going, okay. This was a great show. And then, you know, they did this special thing, whatever, it's probably just a normal thing for them, but I thought it was special because I'd never heard about it. 'cause I don't go in with those expectations going, oh man, I can't wait for act two. You know, it was just like, oh, that was amazing. 

I didn't know they were going to fly because I didn't look into it. I was just like, oh, that was just something cool. This is why half the time we take trips and vacations, you don't even want to know. I don't want to know. Yeah. Like, we were like, Hey, we're going to Carlsbad. I'm like, that's cool. And she was like, do you want to know it? 

I'm like, no. And one time we took a 10 day vacation. And he literally didn't know where we were going until like I was his GPS and I told him, take this exit. And we went like halfway across the country. And for 10 days, he did not until our last day. Like I told him about the Disney world stop on our way home. 

Like we stopped one day at Disney world. But the, that whole trip, he had no clue where we were ending and what we were doing, because he did not want to know. 'cause that surprised to me is like, oh, we're going here. Oh, man. That is awesome. And not go in. Oh, Hey, we have this expectation that we're going to go here and then we don't go there. 

And then it's like, now it's a let down. I guess. That's why we make such a good like travel couple. Absolutely.  Hi. I'm super excited and hyped up all the time about anything new, anything interesting. Like I will YouTube it and Google it for days. Like I will watch tours on YouTube. Uh, walking towards the people going through this area. 

I will know exactly what it looks like. I will know the exact layout. I will have watched the entire show. If it's a show through somebody else's. He YouTube film, you know? I will know everything about it and still go in like enthusiastic and excited. And I love the planning process. I love that entire journey before we even leave the house. 

Whereas you're the opposite of that. So it works out because I'm not taking from you and you're not taking from me. We just kind of play off of each other in that aspect.  And it's one of those things and I've only done it twice. I think whenever. Since we've been married. Is I researched.  Uh, Disney world.  Especially that one trip that we took and every.  Every ride. I knew exactly where the cameras were. 

Oh yeah. Cause you wanted to do yourself.  It was specific. And I did research whenever we went to the state fair.  Because I wanted my food choices already picked out. Yeah. And so those were specific, but other than that, most of our vacations is like, You know, Going to Carlsbad and looking at.  Are taking the boat trip that we've talked about. You know, I didn't. Look at any of that. 

So, you know, I want it to be like full surprise. I just want to take in. Everything , as much as possible, soak it all in, in a think that sometimes people set their expectations. So high. That whenever they don't reach that. Then that also becomes  a deterrent where they don't get the soak, everything in.  Yeah. I'm in, I guess. Abs I'm going to absolutely. If you have that kind of personality then yeah. I can see that. So  don't be disappointed whenever your expectations don't get met, there are tons of things. That you can do and have a great and wonderful time at, and there are some things that are just out of your hands, like sickness.  Sickness happens. All the time. All over the world.  And it's out of your control. 

When you get sick, you just happened to get sick. Yeah, and I don't want to talk about this one too extensively because we have an entire episode that we recently did. About getting sick on vacation. And there is a lot of useful information on that episode. So, if you have not listened to that, I highly suggest you go listen to that episode, because that will help you handle what to do. If that happens. Go check it out. But sickness is one of those things and you just have to.  You just have to learn to cope with it. But there's all different levels of sickness. And in that episode, we talk about every single level that happens and how to deal with it. But don't let that be a disappointment on vacation because there's so much that you can do even while being sick on vacation. They don't want to be disappointment. 

It's okay. To be disappointed. I think that's where you and I like view things differently. I guess because I'm a woman. Like it's okay to have feelings. It just matters how you handle dealing with those feelings. You can have, you can be disappointed. And how are you going to act on that disappointment? 

Don't let that ruin your vacation. You can be angry. You can be hyper, you can be whatever you want to feel. You can feel that, but how are you going to act on it? I think is what matters. Yes. Because attitudes play a massive role. In how you handle situations. Yes. So much everyone's attitudes. Yeah. Not just yours, but everyone in your party, everyone in your group. Their attitudes. A lot about attitudes while traveling, because we have three teenagers. It's sometimes. At a dude's Kim pop-up. Unexpectedly. Yes. 

They've been in the car too long. , they didn't get what they wanted. They didn't find the clothes, whatever they went shopping. There's so much things that could happen. They get a text from a boyfriend or girlfriend or. I mean for the most part, our kids generally, whether we're home or on vacation, they're very like, Um,  They're very chill. Yeah, they're very chill. 

They don't get a lot of attitudes. We don't have a lot of that. You know, we pull them school down their entire lives. And so we have a very like strong family connection. , we know how to talk things out and be reasonable, I guess. But I love Justin's honesty. Our 17 year old. Sometimes he will come into the room in the morning and the whole living room. And he just looks so grumpy and I'm like, what, what is wrong? 

He's like, oh, no. I just woke up, not in a good mood today. And I was like, well, what's your reason. And he's like, I don't even know.  And I'm like, well, I appreciate your honesty, but go back into your room. Your face changed.  

And so that's how we deal with it.  

And it's not just, it's not just immediate family. It's not like children, mom and dads. The spouses.  It's also. 

Other people that travel with you. 

One time. We had someone that was traveling with us and their phone was dying and they forgot their charger. And until we got them a charger. It was like the end of the world.  

It was like, it's not that big of a deal, not to have access to social media and other things while we're traveling, just enjoy the view that's around you and everything will work out. 

We'll charge your phone when we get to the hotel or wherever we're going. As far as Jeremy and I be in parents with our children. We kind of have learned and know what. Set our children off. You know, even down to the toddler, you. You know, what is going to set him off and make him have a little nasty attitude and they're a little fit and we, we try to avoid those situations as much as possible. On vacation. Like we know if, you know. Our one-year-old is in the car seat for too long. 

He's going to have a major attitude and meltdown, which is why we plan so many pit stops,  so we tried to do things that's good for everybody overall, we will plan activities. That suit everybody. Now, one activity may not suit everybody, but we can plan enough activities that everyone's going to enjoy. 

At least one of them, everyone in our family is going to be included in the thought process. . Of our vacation. And that is one of the ways that we help. Avoid attitudes when it comes to our children. And if they start throwing attitudes on vacation, Then usually mom and dad will throw one right back, but our, our kids are, are really good. You know, Not counting the toddler because he's still learning how to behave.  And if you're the one that's planning the trip, you know what your group likes. What they don't like.  And staying away from things that, you know, your group doesn't like.  It is just, it's super easy . To get around that. That way, that attitude doesn't disrupt , the rest of your vacation. Yeah. 

So Ariel's not a super fan of hiking. It's not one of her favorite things to do. She will go hiking. But if we do a hike with Ariel will, we're going to do a smaller hike. Yes with Ariel instead of a long hike. Again, you know, she has breathing issues and stuff sometimes. And so we don't want to overextend her, but.  If it's a longer, more extensive hike. Then then it's going to be something. Where Ariel can stay in the Airbnb or stay in the hotel and have relaxed time, which her and Justin loved to do. 

Like they liked their downtime in the middle of the day. And if Jeremy and I are not feeling that downtime, we'll go do the things that we know they don't like to do. And we actually just did this on our last vacation.  Which is another way that we avoid, you know, We don't make them do everything that we want to do. If possible, um,  I don't want to be made to do things that I don't want to do. 

I mean, as a parent, we do. For our children, but there are times that I don't plan stuff because I don't want to do it. And as miners, they don't get that option a lot. Like they're just wherever mom and dad takes them. And so if it's something I know they absolutely will not enjoy. I'm not going to force them to do it because if they don't enjoy it, And they're going to get attitude and the rest of us, aren't going to enjoy the experience either because we're having to deal with the. You know, the attitude or the meltdowns that come with it. 

A lot of times, those attitudes will.  Bleed over into other people. Oh, yeah. Even our one-year-old. If he has an attitude. In the meltdown, we're all looking at him like, come on, dude.  

And like I said earlier, I was one of those people that I immediately threw an attitude. Oh, yes. I'm very aware. And it affected a lot of people around me. Yes, it did. To the point where it was like, okay, It's raining outside. But I don't care. I'm leaving.  Like, I've got to go sit at the picnic table or I'm gonna go get in someone else's camper. 

I'm not going to be around you right now because of your attitude.  And sometimes you can get away. Sometimes you can't. So sometimes you're kind of just stuck with the people that you're with. And so. Be very mindful of the attitudes. And if, if you go in with high expectations or if you go in. And something gets canceled or. You don't get to go to your favorite restaurant or the place that you wanted to go eat because everyone's fallen. 

They want to go do something else.  Throw that attitude doesn't help anyone. It doesn't even help you because you're not even going to enjoy. The rest of the trip, or you're not even gonna enjoy that, that. That moment. And there's so many times on so many vacations where something has gone wrong. 

Going to Disney world, our kids get sick  

yeah. Carlsbad weather happened going to south Padre, whether happened where it didn't go, the way that we wanted it to go. But we still had great times  the journey is the destination. Whether you're going down the beach and that's a journey to get to another destination. Having that wonderful time, just walk in and joined the waves, the sound, the things that are going on around you. Or if you're even in a car ride and you're trying to get to, you know,  From point a to point B all the wonderful stuff that happens around you. All the sites and the wonders that you get to see, and the conversations you get to have with one another. 

 Although it may not be going exactly the way that you want to. And there might be some disappointments in there. One thing that we have learned during all of our travels and, you know, dealing with.  Unexpected things happening. Is a lot of times whenever. Something is canceled or.  Plans have to get changed. 

We find hidden treasures. We find unexpected. Events or unexpected. ,  Journeys that we take like  little side quests.  

So.  And sometimes those make our vacation. So just because something changes just because something doesn't go exactly the way you want to, , whether it's  because whether it's not cooperating or there's a cancellation.  For an event or entertainment that's happened or someone gets sick or someone is just having a bad attitude and , it's not reaching the expectation. That you had for your vacation? 

Take a minute.  Countdown from 10.  Woo saw relax.  Reset your mind.  . Yeah. I like to have a general plan, a general itinerary schedule of what we're going to do and where we're going to be going. It's. It's very general. It's very basic. But when things have to be changed, I want to be flexible. 

I want to be able to adapt. Those changes into our vacation so that we can still have , a great time. You have to be adaptable. You have to be flexible because if you are absolutely rigid in your mindset and in your plans, And, you know, sometimes it works out and absolutely nothing goes wrong, but.  As much as we've been traveling, I got to tell you that is not usually the case. The last several trips we have went on, something has happened that like has changed , our basic itinerary.  And we went off on those little side quests. 

We're going to go on little side quest, cause it off of our general itinerary and found some. Absolutely amazing places.  

. There's so many times.  We've we just did that on the one to south. Badri where I was like, what is that? And we just went off from our destination where we were supposed to go and we made a small detour. 

We went on a side quest and we had a really good time doing it. That's actually in our YouTube video. So check it out . And it's not that you know, we're not just saying these things. 

This is what we absolutely firmly believe in , the mindset that you have to have to enjoy every trip and every vacation you want them all to be beautiful moments. And the only way that's possible is if you embrace the ugly, like you have to embrace the ugly you have to, because you can't let one bad vacation deter you from going on other vacations. 

Because if that was the case, we would have stopped vacation. And probably 20 years ago. Yeah, I've been editing our. Um, YouTube videos for south Padre. Which I was so excited. You guys, we have our YouTube up and running every Saturday. New videos are coming out, but I'm just looking over the last three videos.   Which are the three of our south Padre trips so far, it really got me thinking about this is you can see it in our videos of how our plans had to change. Yeah. Uh, how we had to make, or just be like, oh, well, well, this didn't happen, but you know, it's fine. 

We got to experience something new. We went on this adventure and whether it happened exactly the way we wanted it to go or not like it was still a journey, it was still an adventure. 

I hope you found this episode helpful. It's been near and dear to Jeremy's heart. He's really been wanting to talk about it. 

It really is all about that mindset. I feel like we've. Um, we've kind of crossed over into motivational podcast today, not just.  Podcast. We went a little motivational, but it's something.  Like Missy said it is something that we've, we've done. It's something that we've had to change our mindset, especially the more children we got, the more situations that we found ourselves in.  And I hope this was fun. 

I hope , that y'all got a lot of laughs and a lot of kicks out of this. All of our different stories. We share it. All of our dirty laundry today.  But I wanted everyone to know that. Not every trip is going to be 100% perfect.   Things are going to happen that more often than not. That you just don't have any control over. And you can get down and,  have a pity party on yourselves, or you can pick yourself up and go have a great and wonderful time. Yeah, money's just a number. When things happen that  Makes you upset. 

Money's just a number. It's more about the experience and the memories. Absolutely. Join us next week, we are going to talk about how to make the most of a beach vacation. We are coming up on spring break. And then summer is right around the corner. So before you plan those beach vacations tune in to next week's episode,